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This is perhaps the most exciting time in history to be a woman on this planet

A good deal is written about how men are afraid of women’s power. What is less known however, is to what extent women themselves are afraid of their power!

I am not referring to the kind of power that comes with a role – I’m talking about the authentic power that arises naturally from an inner sense of authority, the kind of power no-one can assign to you, nor take away from you. The natural qualities of a woman’s power include her ability to love, to nurture, to care, to be creative, receptive and open - even to put others’ needs before her own, when called for.

But her loving and giving, her creativity and receptive nature must be rooted in her equally natural feminine qualities of discernment and fierceness, the deep knowing of her instinctual body, her ability to surf the depths and heights of her rich feelings and enjoy her sensual, sexual passions and prowess.

Without embracing this wildish side of her self, her pride and deep pleasure in being a woman will be out of her reach – as will a mate that can meet her.

Women's work is not an alternative lifestyle, simply a sane choice in a crazy world.

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As we let go of old stories, what resources do we need to support us so we don’t fall back into old traps? The radical changes we are looking for cannot come from the confines of our old story that created our self-concept and worldview. It cannot come from somebody else telling us what do to. It will only come from a different story, the "new story" that women gathering together are trying to gestate and birth – simply by changing the way we relate to our ‘old story’ we create a ‘new story’. Though in many respects what we are stalking is not new at all, but very ancient. The difference is that we live in very different times from when those ancient stories first emerged to guide human behavior and sense of purpose.

The equality of women in modern western society is only a doorway through which we can now begin to reclaim the radiant, fierce aliveness of the deep feminine. With this greater freedom comes greater responsibility: we each can play an active role in guiding how the future will unfold by the choices we make every day.

When as women we look deeply into our longing hearts - we probably find that we all hold the purpose of life as sacred. In our deepest desires we all long to heal our bodies, minds and souls, to heal our mother Earth... desire to co-create the new, ancient story upon which a more beautiful world might be built, together with men and for the children of the coming generations.

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"Helena has a rare talent for bringing together the worlds of psychotherapeutic analysis, with shamanic or Indigenous knowledges, along with embodied, feminist intellectual frame-works and in doing so creates the conditions for transformation and awakening at a deep level. I particularly appreciate the holistic approach she offers through her experienced understanding of these different worlds, and the number of arrows in her quiver which she fires to get to the heart of a situation.

"Her strength and tenderness are in equal measure and through a crisis in my life, she offered resources and tools as well as intellectual and emotional support to help me keep moving, growing and learning. The world is a richer and more healing place because of her presence on it."

Dr. Anna Cole

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Ways Of Woman: Embracing feminine confidence, creativity & inner authority for self-actualization and leadership.

Residential retreats for Women
In South West France with Helena Løvendal
A transformational opportunity for women who wish to know and embody their unique female Beauty, Power and Wisdom

Booking now!

7 - 14 May 2019 • Opening to Passion, Power & Pleasure -
Transforming our relationship to men and the masculine.

Trans-generational exposure to patriarchal values has wounded the feminine in both men and woman. A woman’s projections onto men, and her consequent relationship to her inner masculine, is key to her ability to inhabit her sexual self and engage with her own and others’ power– thus having a deep intimate relationship with herself. Allowing ourselves the pleasure of our own power awakens the passion to live more fully and to venture out into the world trusting our instincts and desires and knowing how to manifest and live our dreams. We transform the prevailing idealization of the masculine, a form of internalized misogyny masquerading as female empowerment, into freedom and honest capacity to relate wholeheartedly.

Our venue for this unique week is the peaceful and secluded La Roane, set in a 20 acre woodland retreat with wonderful walks to explore, a paradise for nature lovers.

What previous participants say:
"Helena as facilitator creates and holds a safe space where awareness, honesty, patience and inspiration lives. She melts through layers of lived life with heartfelt patience so new perspectives can be born; cut through bullshit with humor, lived knowledge and decades of experience and wisdom as a woman and a teacher in the field. With a wide variety of tools and approaches for body, heart, soul and mind I was invited to go on an adventurous journey through my inner landscapes and into the unknown accompanied of a small and intimate group of women from all over Europe."

"Due to doing all three modules spanning over a year I experienced I really had time to integrate the shifts and transformations in me and my everyday-life between each module. This has given me time to actually take a leap towards a life with more inner freedom and increasingly being in tune with my inner truths and longings."

"As young and unestablished this was a big economical investment for me. My reply to that inner conversation of mine was "I'm investing in the house I'm going to live in for the rest of my life". Now when the course is over I'm happy to share that I'm still satisfied with my investment and that I would choose the same all over again in a heartbeat."

"This course has touched me, moved me and inspired me in ways I couldn't even imagine. I deeply recommend this course!"

We stand at a threshold of a new era for humanity, one in which women and feminine qualities are being restored into partnership with men and the masculine. However, so many of the problems we face in the modern world today stem from the fact that over countless generations, this source of strength, dignity and power at the very core of our female being has been devalued. The result is that most women today are left with a distorted sense of their female identity.

Due to the stereotypical images and enforced roles of womanhood that we encounter throughout our lives - as did our mothers and their mothers before them, as women we have become alienated from ourselves, our bodies, and the nature of our true female power and beauty.and in reaction risk becoming
imitators of masculine ways.

The problem is that when woman's ground erodes,
humanity inevitably suffers alienation from life itself –

For women to allow themselves to remember who they are at their core, and begin to live and act accordingly within their relationships and in their everyday lives is now an act of great political, social and spiritual importance with the power to determine the outcome of these transitional times now and for the coming generations.

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life? "
Mary Oliver

Possibilities for follow up weeks

June 2019 - Walking The Red Path - our yearly, deepening retreat for women who have done previous work in women only groups.
Spring 2020: Woman, to thy own self be true - When sleeping women awake, mountains move.

Contact me for full details or if you want to have a chat to see if this is for you!

Your confusion is not pathology, it is path. It has something to show you that clarity could never reveal. The nature of chaos is wisdom, but you must provide sanctuary to receive its essence. For this revelation will only release into an environment of a fiery, attuned kindness.
Your feeling of disconnection is not neurotic, it is intelligent. It has something to show you that oneness could never reveal. Travel inside the felt sense and into the hidden passageways. And you will find the emissaries awaiting.
You are neither “separate” nor “one,” but the erupting holding field in which the energies of “separate” and “one” interpenetrate and dance the relative into being. While you may have a bias for oneness over multiplicity, love does not share this bias, and is ready at all times to employ either equally as its envoy here.
Your loneliness, your shakiness, and your fear are not mistakes. Your vulnerability is not pathology, it is path. Here, there are no “obstacles,” only endless invitations. The freedom you are longing for will never be found in the eradication of the unwanted, but only in the love and the information it carries.
There are surges of somatic activity that contain very important information for your journey. If you will offer safe passage, you will receive the secret offering: Nothing is missing, nothing is out of place, and nothing need be sent away.
Yes, the burning can be unbearable. Such is the nature of the human heart. You may burn until you are translucent, but it is by way of this burning that wholeness is revealed.

Women-only events. we are all in this together

Join the Second Rites for Girls Professional Facilitator Training in Europe 2019!

Next training starts March 2019!! A unique opportunity to become involved in 
pioneering work with pre-teen girls!

Confirmed with only a few places left

With Kim McCabe and Helena Løvendal

I have for many years held the vision of being able to support young girls in their journey towards becoming a young woman. I believe it has always been one of the most important tasks for women and mothers, but even more so now. I'm delighted that Kim and I met in this shared vision.

From working with women for over 20 years, I know that the longing for female role models that you actually desire to become like, is deep; so many of us grew up rejecting the visions of womanhood we were given, and for good reasons! It's been a long, long time since the world has been a friendly place for women and the feminine in men and women alike, but the tide is turning.

Our daughters are hungry for our female wisdom and feminine intelligence; they need it to be at home in their own bodies, to feel pride and joy in becoming and being women; they need it to wake up from the age-old trance of idealizing men and the masculine, which it turn prevents genuine love of men and the masculine to develop which in turn prevents the men from being able to learn to love and trust women and the feminine... it's a long and painful tale, and we women have some very important work to do! But how do you pass on what you never received yourself?

This training is a unique opportunity for women to learn exactly that.
‘Rites for Girls’ Facilitators’ Training
9-17th March 2019 • 13-21st July 2019 • 12-20th Oct 2019

18 months training including three 9-day residential modules in Sussex, England

  • Do you feel you have an affinity for the teenage stage of life?
  • Would you like to join a group of pioneering women supporting mothers and daughters in making the transition from girl to woman a lasting life-enhancing experience?
  • You might remember your own issues from your teenage years - and be interested in exploring the importance of this life stage in more depth.

Teenagers are stressed. Many girls are feeling the pressure to do well at school, look good, stay connected on social media, get on with their parent and fit in. Sadly many girls are showing the signs of not coping and mental health concerns are on the rise.
Would you like to be able to support girls through this challenging phase? You may be a mother, or not. What matters is that you care deeply about how our daughters experience the transition from girlhood to young womanhood. And that you are ready to meet yourself as a woman of deep beauty, power, wisdom and wicked humour! If you are interested to know more, get in touch without any commitment.

Taught by Kim McCabe and Helena Løvendal, the training entails a mixture of residential group training, individual support, peer groups, written work, and supervised practical experience – with four residential weeks spanning a year.

What current trainees are saying:

"This training course has hidden depths just like the work itself. It's a deep dive into oneself like I've never experienced before and is influencing all aspects of life especially my own relationship to my daughter, I really recomend my fellow women to take the plunge and join us on this journey in making the world a safer , friendlier space for our girls" J.D.

"The depth and impact of the training offered by Kim and Helena is unfolding to be some of the most profound learning I have done in my life. Not only am I learning how to be a facilitaor but I am learning how to be "more myself". What a gift - for the girls I will work with...and for me!"
Karen A-K

If you are interested in training in this important pioneering work, please contact Kim or Helena:

[email protected]
[email protected]

Look forward to hearing from you.

Discover more about Girls Journeying Together Groups.

"When I was awarded the Ray Murphy Award in 2010, with my proposal to build leadership capacity in Ireland, 'Taking Yourself Seriously: A developmental opportunity for women in leadership', there was only one woman in the world that I wanted for my own 1:1 leadership coaching: Helena Lovendal.

"I have been inspired, encouraged and enriched by Helena since I first attended one of her courses in 2003. From the outset Helena challenged me to connect deeply to myself as a woman, to reflect on my inner relationship to power, creativity, leadership and authority. This was transformational. It was with Helena that I began to wonder: how did I know myself as a powerful woman and give my power away? How did I really want to express my power in life? What strategies did I have for distracting myself, for self-sabotage, for not shining?

"She has been an important influence in my life for over a decade. I love every minute of working with her. She's such a talented woman, rich in knowledge and insight, humane and compassionate, challenging and provocative, funny and wise. I can't recommend her highly enough. She's the best."

Eina McHugh, Cultural Consultant, author of 'To Call Myself Beloved', Fulbright Scholar and Fellow of the Royal Society of Arts

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Wild Geese

Yearly week-long gathering for women over 50!!

27th August -3rd September 2019
La Roane, South West France
Confirmed to run - some spaces left!

Tatiana Shuttleworth & Helena Løvendal
Course fees: £580
Accommodation: £560 - all meals, snacks and organic wine included.

Starting a new tradition of a yearly gathering for women becoming Elders and Wisdom Keepers.

An opportunity for us as wise women and elders to be able to fly ‘home ‘ to ‘regroup ‘ for a week every to be able to share and work with the potential, struggles, joys and challenges of what we are encountering both personally and professionally at this stage in our lives.

The wild geese retreat will offer a space to reflect on what it truly means to step into the responsibilities of being elders and wisdom keepers at this time and our intent will be for this yearly retreat space to truly nourish , resource, empower and support us to be able to do what we need to in the world, knowing we can return when the time is right to our own flock .......

We will do deep work, create ceremonies and rituals, have time for fun and relaxarion and play.....and who knows what else!

You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
For a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves.
Tell me about your despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.
Meanwhile the world goes on.
Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain
are moving across the landscapes,
over the prairies and the deep trees,
the mountains and the rivers.
Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air,
are heading home again.
Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination,
calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting --
over and over announcing your place
in the family of things.

‘Wild Geese’ by Mary Oliver

Our venue for this first gathering is the peaceful and secluded La Roane, set in a 20 acre woodland retreat with wonderful walks to explore, a paradise for nature lovers. Here you will find an abundance of wildlife: deer, hare, buzzards, singing frogs and butterflies – over 40 species of butterflies identified recently – and wild flowers. Guests are housed in 3 beautiful buildings set around a large oval-shaped pool in a lovely sunny spot in the centre of the garden. It is an ecological fresh water pool cleaned without the use of chlorine or salt.

The food is vegetarian and amazing. Meals are prepared with love and artistry by award winning chef Enzo. He uses locally sourced organic vegetables when possible, some of which come from their own vegetable garden.

Let’s join up and together head home as women of deep beauty, power, wisdom and wicked humour!

Contact me for full details or if you want to have a chat to see if this is for you!

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